How do you calm anxiety towards family visiting?

u can't worry about what people may say or think of u. i used to be that way and what helped me is i just stop giving a damn about what people though of me. i always said to my self that i am a good mother weather no one tells me. u have to say positive things about your self all the time. my in laws always tried to under mine me as a parent. and once i had a little talk with them and let them know that i am the mother i tell u what to do when it comes to my kids. u have to stop letting them ruin ur live and happiness. make up ur mind today that u are your own person. and if they don't like the way u clean then they don't have to visit. that's what i told my in laws and now we get along great.